Stephen Van Rensselaer American Civil War veteran (1838–1904) Parents Elizabeth Ray King Henry Bell Van Rensselaer Children Charles Augustus Van Rensselaer Siblings John King Van Rensselaer Elizabeth Waddington Cornelia Van Rensselaer Mary Van Rensselaer Henry Van Rensselaer Katherine Van Rensselaer Partners Matilda Coster Heckscher